Funerals are poignant moments where words offer solace, reflection, and a means to honour the departed. In the UK, certain poems have become timeless fixtures in funeral services, resonating deeply with many.  

Here's a look at some of the most popular funeral poems that provide comfort and remembrance. 

1. "Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep" by Mary Elizabeth Frye 

This brief yet powerful poem speaks directly to those left behind, urging them to find peace and reassurance. Its message of eternal presence and comfort, as the speaker describes being one with nature, has made it a favorite: 

"Do not stand at my grave and weep, 
I am not there; I do not sleep." 

2. "Funeral Blues" by W.H. Auden 

Popularised by the film Four Weddings and a Funeral, Auden’s poem captures the deep sense of loss and the world-altering impact of a loved one’s death. Its stark opening lines are particularly poignant: 

"Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,  
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,  
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum, 
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.” 

3. “Epitaph On A Friend” by  Robert Burns 

Burns' words offer a sense of solace and honor, celebrating the virtues and the cherished memories of the deceased. The poem serves as a reminder of the enduring impact that individuals have on the lives of those they leave behind, making it a fitting piece for funeral readings that seek to commemorate and honor the life of a friend: 

“ An honest man here lies at rest, 
The friend of man, the friend of truth, 
The friend of age, and guide of youth: 
Few hearts like his, with virtue warm'd, 
Few heads with knowledge so inform'd; 
If there's another world, he lives in bliss; 
If there is none, he made the best of this.” 

In times of loss, finding the right words to say can be a challenging yet essential part of the grieving process. Poems have a unique way of capturing the complex emotions that accompany farewells, offering comfort, reflection, and a sense of connection to those who have passed.  

Using The Farewell Guide’s secure document vault, you can upload poems of your choice and store them on your account.  

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