Losing a loved one is a deeply emotional experience, and planning a Hindu funeral can feel unfamiliar if you're not familiar with the customs. While Hindu funeral rituals vary by sect and region, they generally follow the same principles. This guide provides an overview of how a Hindu funeral typically takes place in the UK, from preparation to the 13-day mourning period. 

What Happens Before a Hindu Funeral? 

After the death of a loved one, it’s important to contact a funeral director and a Hindu priest to help with the funeral arrangements. Funeral directors familiar with Hindu practices can guide you to a suitable funeral home and crematorium. 

• Body Preparation: The body is typically kept at home before the cremation. It should remain undisturbed unless absolutely necessary. Family members, particularly those closest to the deceased, often prepare the body. This includes washing, anointing the body with sandalwood paste (for males) or turmeric (for females), and dressing it in simple clothing, often white, which symbolises purity. The body is displayed in an open casket, with flowers placed at the feet and a garland or wooden beads around the neck. 

• Rituals Before the Cremation: Family members and close friends gather for prayers and hymns, usually at the family home. The prayers, including mantras and sacred verses, focus on helping the soul transition and attain moksha (liberation). A priest may lead these prayers, and visitors are welcome to participate but not required to do so. 

The Funeral Service and Cremation 

In Hinduism, the funeral service or wake is typically held at the family home before the cremation, followed by a cremation ceremony that takes place as soon as possible, usually within 24 hours. 

• Viewing the Body: Family and close friends come to view the body while the family recites prayers. The funeral service is solemn, and some visitors may choose to quietly observe the prayers without actively participating. It is important to respect the family’s wishes during this time. 

• The Cremation Ceremony: The body is transported to the crematorium, traditionally with the eldest male family member accompanying it. In some cases, the family may choose a private ceremony, while others may have a priest or family members lead prayers at the cremation site. The casket is carried feet-first into the crematorium, as prayers are recited by the family. 

Rituals and Etiquette at a Hindu Funeral 

Hindu funerals in the UK often blend traditional practices with modern elements, but the core rituals remain consistent with Hindu beliefs about reincarnation and moksha. 

• Cremation: Cremation is the preferred method for the deceased’s body, as it symbolises the release of the soul from the physical form. Exceptions are made for young children, who are typically buried. After the cremation, the ashes are collected and scattered, often in a sacred river or a meaningful location for the family. 

• What to Say: It is customary to express condolences to the bereaved family. Visitors may say "Om Shanti" (meaning "Peace"), or simply offer their support in a respectful, quiet manner. Non-Hindus are welcome to attend and participate, but they are not expected to join in the prayers unless they choose to. 

What to Wear to a Hindu Funeral 

In Hindu culture, white is traditionally worn at funerals, as it symbolises mourning and purity. Bright colours, particularly black, should be avoided, as they are considered inauspicious. Women are expected to dress conservatively, covering the chest, knees, and shoulders, and simple jewellery is appropriate. Open-toed shoes are generally acceptable. 

Hindu Funeral Gifts and Donations 

During this solemn time, gifts or donations are often offered to help support the family or aid in the deceased’s spiritual journey. Common offerings include: 

• Money: Often given to the family or for charity, money symbolises support for the family and the deceased’s soul. 

• Flowers: Sending flowers to the family or funeral director before the service is common in Hindu funerals. Flowers are seen as a symbol of respect for the deceased. 

The 13-Day Mourning Period 

Following the funeral, a 13-day mourning period begins. This period is marked by several customs designed to help the soul transition to its next life and provide support for the family. 

• Daily Prayers and Rituals: The family remains at home and refrains from attending the temple, focusing on prayer and remembrance. A photo of the deceased is displayed at home, surrounded by a garland of flowers. Visitors come to offer prayers, light incense, and pay respects. 

• 13th Day Ceremony (Shradh): On the 13th day, the family performs the Shradh ceremony, a ritual in which food and prayers are offered to honour the deceased and support the soul’s journey into the afterlife. This ceremony marks the end of the mourning period. 

The First Anniversary Memorial 

On the first anniversary of the death, the family typically holds a memorial service to honour the life of their loved one. This may involve prayers, offering food to the deceased’s soul, and reflecting on the person’s life and legacy. 

Final Thoughts on Modern Hindu Funerals in the UK 

Modern Hindu funerals in the UK often blend traditional Hindu practices with the realities of contemporary life. Whether in a temple or at a funeral home, the aim is to help the deceased's soul reach moksha, moving beyond the cycle of reincarnation. Participating in these rituals not only helps the soul's journey but also supports the family during their time of grief. 

Understanding the steps involved in a Hindu funeral can help you respectfully participate in the ceremony and offer comfort to the grieving family, ensuring that the departed soul receives the prayers and rituals needed for its peaceful transition. 

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