Talking about death may never feel easy, but it’s one of the most thoughtful and practical things we can do for ourselves and the people we love. At The Farewell Guide, we help you take control of this process — whether you want to make a funeral plan for the future, or need to find a funeral director right now.

These ten questions are designed to open up honest conversations about end-of-life wishes, and to ensure everything is in place when the time comes.

1. Do you have a will, and where is it kept?
A will outlines how you’d like your money, property and belongings to be handled after your death. It may also name guardians for any dependants. If you already have one, make sure your loved ones know where to find it.

2. Would you prefer burial or cremation?
This is one of the most important choices to make. Some people have strong cultural, religious or environmental reasons for their decision. Letting your family know your preference in advance removes uncertainty and helps avoid second-guessing.

3. What kind of funeral service would you like?
Would you prefer a traditional funeral, a quiet memorial, or a celebration of life? Some want a formal service, while others prefer something personal and relaxed. Whatever your vision, it helps to write it down.

4. Are there any songs, readings or rituals you’d like included?
Music, readings, and even who speaks at your funeral can help reflect your personality and values. You might have favourite songs or a poem you’d like read. Religious or cultural traditions can also be noted here.

5. Have you chosen a funeral director, or should someone else decide?
If you already have a preferred funeral director, make that clear. If not, your family will need to find someone when the time comes. The Farewell Guide lets you compare trusted funeral directors in your area, helping your loved ones find someone who’s the right fit.

6. Have you considered paying for your funeral in advance?
Pre-paid funeral plans allow you to cover some or all of the costs ahead of time. This can ease financial pressure on your family. If you’ve bought a plan, make sure the details are stored safely and are easy to find.

7. Where would you like your final resting place to be?
This might be a particular cemetery, crematorium, natural burial ground, or a special place where you’d like your ashes scattered. If you have a preference, be specific so your family can honour your wishes.

8. Who should be notified when you die?
Think beyond immediate family. There may be friends, neighbours, colleagues or old connections who would want to know. Keep a list and update it as needed — you can store it securely in your plan at The Farewell Guide.

9. Would you like to leave any personal messages behind?
A letter, video message, or written reflections can bring comfort and connection to those you leave behind. It’s a chance to say what matters most in your own words.

10. Have you documented your wishes somewhere safe and accessible?
It’s not enough to have a conversation. Recording your choices and storing them securely ensures they’re there when needed. At The Farewell Guide, you can create a private online funeral plan where everything is kept in one place and easily shared with your chosen people.

Why these questions matter
Preparing for death doesn’t mean giving up — it means taking control. It means helping your loved ones make decisions with confidence and clarity during a difficult time.

At The Farewell Guide, we believe planning ahead is an act of love. Whether you're thinking about your own wishes or trying to support someone else, we’re here to help. You can start building your funeral plan for free, or search for a funeral director near you — all in one place.

Click here to start planning today.